1Tim4:12-14

I doubt it because in her loneliness, she may have feelings of guilt. I´ve heard many women are taught since childhood they were to make their husband happy and if they weren´t able to, then they were to blame, not the man. In the other words, the victim was to blame, not the criminal. This was nonsense for me. I couldn´t understand it. For me it was as simple as, man mistreating woman, woman should report him, go to jail, spend some time there thinking about his wrongdoings. End of story. Why would the woman have feelings of guilt ? Why would she feel bad about solving her domestic violence problem ? And then one day I asked my girl cousin and her answer was plain and simple: because she is still in love with him.

Maybe she is still in love with him. Maybe she did something that ignited his anger. Or maybe it was the guy who, unabled to control his problem with alcohol, lost the senses and became an animal and deserved all punishment and also professional help. Maybe he was fired from work and instead of encouragement, what he received at home was criticism and lack of love. Who knows ? I don´t.

What I do know is long ago, an apostle of JesusChrist wrote this: Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. It is there in the Bible. Book of Colossians, chapter 3, verse 18-19. The apostle Paul also wrote to the Ephesians: Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. And this last one´s my favorite. If you wish, take your Bible and go to the book of Ephesians, chapter 5, from verses 24 to 28: Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

May God bless these two that woke me up in the morning with their shouts. May they have the opportunity to hear God´s word regarding fighting spouses. May both submit to God and learn how to live a blessed life in Him. And may they, as is mentioned in Jeremiah, learn that, not the jail, not the house, but God should be their strength, their fortress, their refuge in times of distress.