1Tim4:12-14

... my friend and her sister are adults already. Maybe their parents fights won´t affect them that much now (it is still a bad example for their daughters, I hope they won´t emulate them in this behaviour when married themselves). If they were still children, probably a bigger damage would have caused in their lives. I think maybe now that the girls each have "their own life" and both Mom and Dad no longer have to constantly look up for them, they can do as they wish: meaning that they are "sort of" free from the burden of taking care of their little girls. They live separately, they can do whatever they want, they can meet new people, maybe even, since they are not under the same roof, are dating someone without the other one knowing, who knows. Maybe both girls already gave up trying to talk them back to care for each other. Maybe they don´t even care anymore. If they want to live their own life as they wish, so be it.

But I believe, in their hearts they still have some unhappiness. I believe they still have moments of sadness. They both know they still have an unresolved problem, a pending difficulty that can´t be overcomed as long as they don´t sit together to have a sincere talk, a first step, a step in the right direction. A sincere prayer for God´s guidance and a conversation free of bad feelings towards your spouse accepting your fault.

God´s word is full of wisdom in reminding us about these problems. A classic verse is Ephesians 4:26-27 and it says: In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.

When James (Jesus´ brother and pastor of the church of Jerusalem) wrote to the christian jews around year 49 AD, he reminded them on his letter: My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.

Also, Psalms 37:8 reminds us to: Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil.

And 1 John 1:9 says: If we confess our sins, God is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

The big problem I always see is people confess to God and stop there. They stop short of doing something very important. They don´t say sorry to the one they sinned against. It´s not easy, that´s right, but it´s very necessary. It "takes balls" as the saying goes. People many times say to themselves: hey, why don´t he/she take the first step ? Why me ? But I tell you, you are just refraining yourself from a lot of blessings and happiness by taking this approach. I tell you it "takes balls" to be a sin confessing & loving person and you better start practicing ; )

My prayer for my friend and her parents is that they are able to both let go their ego. To them, my best wishes that in the Lord they will surrender to His will, which is of the best for all His children always. I hope they both can let go their selfishness and think of a family life restored in God`s love. My prayer is for them to give themselves a second chance for a rich family life together. I think they deeply want it and need it. Amen : )